Do you want to know the secret of learning how to love yourself? Are you tired of pleasing others all the time and forgetting yourself that you deserved to be pampered too.
I will give you 5 ways how to embrace love just by yourself.
1.Spend your Money
I am a firm believer of working hard and buying the things that makes me happy. First of all, what is the fruit of your hard work if you don’t look forward for something that makes you work harder right? Spend by your own financial means. Life is too short to suppress the things that you have been dreaming of. Secondly, whenever you get paid, allot a percentage of your salary to treat yourself. You might want to go to a makeup counter and splurge on that Chanel lipstick that you have been eyeing for or that Valentino shoes in Harrods. I kid you not all those long days and night shifts that you have done for the whole month would seem like just a past time if you get it in your hand. Lastly, to spend your money means pay your credit debts, through this you’ll feel satisfied and relieved, you cannot run away with the thoughts of numbers on your head. Clear it up and start a fresh one.
Remember, whatever makes you happy at the moment and acting on it means you are acknowledging your needs and desires, through this you give value and dignity to yourself.
2. Be with the person that makes you happy
Do not surround yourself with people that full of negativity in life. It is good to be with someone who can motivate you or put a smile on your face. Get rid of the ones who makes your day miserable or the ones who doesn’t see your worth. Nobody can dictates you who you wanted to be with. If you are happy go for it, follow your heart. If you adore that person, go and get him/her, don’t wait for tomorrow, it might be too late before you made your decision that this person is the one for you. If you want to live your life free of regrets, just follow your heart, it will lead you to that right person who is meant and waiting for you for so long.
3. Go on Holidays
You deserve a break free. Drop all those commitments infront of you. Go online and book yourself a ticket to a nice and warm country that you have been dreaming for long. You have been working hard and must be saving up for few months now, why not treat yourself to a place that gives you memories for life right? If you don’t do it now, then when would that be? Don’t you envy your friends when you open your Facebook and Instagram full of holiday photos? They did the same thing like you, they worked hard to achieved that vacation. So, make plans now and make sure you book in advance so that you won’t change your mind once you click that cursor, then that’s where your holiday starts.
4. Run, Drink, Eat, Have Fun!
If you love running in the park, that’s a good way of giving yourself a big treat. It’s one way to destress, when you exercise endorphins releases in your body which trigger positive feeling. No wonder people who incorporate running in their exercise makes them to run more due to its exhilirating impact.
If you are a coffee lover like me, well done you. Don’t you know that drinking 4 cups of coffee a day is healthy. Don’t be surprised, there’s a related study regarding coffee that it prevents Diabetes and Stroke, although they say it raises blood pressure but it has a very small percentage. Moreover, drinking coffee protects against heart failure in comparison to those who doesn’t drink. In addition, coffee has good memory booster due to its caffeine content as well as it’s antioxidant effect. Therefore, if you are thinking of a drink that’s condense of health benefits, take the advantage of this great so called – coffee!
Are you tired of cooking all the time? Why not give yourself a break and dine in to a nice restaurant alone or with friends. It won’t break the bank spending a meal that you will enjoy. It’s the thought of going outside the house, getting some fresh air and once in a while not touching your kitchen at all. Who does loves to wash up their dishes? I think everyone drags to do this chore. Don’t feel guilty that you are spending your money to eat out, you deserve that treat. You need to look after yourself too. Trying different cuisine helps your perspective in life that there is a life outside your kitchen comfort.
Having fun is not bad at all. Go out with your friends, have some cocktails or glass of wine, sing and dance, let your hair down, dress up and put some make up on. You don’t do this all the time, do you? You deserve to have a laugh and get lost a little bit, forget for a while those due reports that you have been dreading of.
5. Be kind
So here’s the deal, we only have one life to live and we won’t even stay in this world for long. As much as we wanted to live longer, we need to accept the fact that our life here on earth is only temporary. Why not start loving what you see around you. If you hate your manager or co worker, send them love now. If you had a disagreement with your parents, think that they are getting old and won’t live that much longer as you wish. If you had a petty fight with your friends, go and make your reconciliation, friends will be there forever if you know how to look after them. If you hate your job because it pays you minimum salary and the workload is getting on your nerves, think that you are very blessed, there’s a lot of people who’s having a hard time to find a job to feed them everyday.
If you have hatred in your heart, let go of it. Forgive yourself and the people who hurt you. Live life the way as it is, do not expect beyond your expectations. You are missing the beauty of life.
Always remember that Loving Yourself First is the step forward to give love to the person next to you and around you. There’s a lot of people who never experienced the true meaning of love and you don’t want to be in that position. It’s never too late to change. I might sound a cliché to you but trust me give one of my 5 ways a try, I would be thrilled to know the outcome.